How are you?
What feelings are most prominent in your life right now? (feelings of peace or are you afraid, do you experience uncertainty about something ... choices you have to make now ... your future etc. .. tell a little more about it ... and why does it make you feel that way?)
Is there any advice you’re looking for about anything?
Is there something you’re struggling with right now? (school, teachers, friends, girls, mock, bully, emotions, anger or depression)
What do you do to relax or de-stress? Does it work well for you or do you need to adjust or change it a little?
What discourage you the most?
Do you struggle to get everything done during a week? Where can we make adjustments if necessary or if possible?
How much time do you spend on homework? Do you need to reschedule your program or cancel some activities?
Is there anything mom and I do that annoys, irritates, frustrate or discourages you? What do you suggest might work better?
What frustrates you about your brothers or sisters in the way we as parents raise them?
Does your friends or others at school talk about: sex, porn, masturbation, dating, using girls, drugs, alcohol etc.
How does these conversations affect you?
What do you do when they talk about it?
Do the conversations bother you later when you are alone?
How do you clear your mind if you couldn't help but listen to sexual lustful conversations and suggestions around you?
How is your fantasy world?
Are there any lustful thoughts you are struggled with? What was it about or what led to it?
What did you do with the thoughts or did it lead to porn, masturbation or something sexual that you feel bad about?
What scene in a movie, video or anything else you recently saw disturbed, affected you negatively or trigger sexual thoughts?
Could you get rid of that thought or picture you remembered?
What can you do in the future if such disturbing or sexual scenes appear in films?
What do you do when friends throw sex talks or skimp on sexual games or actions during parties, sleepovers or social occasions?
If it happens in the future, what will you do to get you out of the situation? (Call me or mom to pick you up or withdraw from the group, escape etc.)
What do you do when a girl or boy start sending you sexual messages or requesting photos of your face, body, six-pack, naked or genitals?
What are you going to do if a girl or a boy comes to you and touch you on your privates or take your hand and put it on their privates?
When did you experience your first ejaculation or 'wet dream'? How did you feel about it; scared, surprised, shameful or OK? What did you do afterwards?
If you do have ‘wet-dreams’, are they sexually lustful, normal fantasy dreams about girls, about boys, or with no dreaming of anything at all?
How do you handle your sexual drives?
When or how did you find out about masturbation?
Do you masturbate frequently (once or more daily) or just occasionally? (once every 3rd day or less)
What led you to frequent masturbation?
What can I do as your dad if you need help with overwhelming sexual urges and you cannot help yourself but masturbate frequently?
See information regarding masturbation HERE