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Practical Advice on How to Stop Masturbating
Let’s be real—quitting cold turkey sounds great, but for most guys, it’s not that simple. If you expect to never do it again immediately, you might get frustrated, mess up, and feel like giving up completely. That’s NOT the goal.
The real goal is Progress!
Even if you slip up, the most important thing is to get back up and keep going. Every step forward means you're regaining control over your body and mind.
What If You Masturbate Once or Twice a Week?
Don’t feel disappointed if you end up at masturbating once or twice a week—that’s actually okay. As long as you’re not using porn, fantasies, or any other enhancements, it won’t harm your development as a young man. You’re not messing up, and you’re definitely not “ruining” your future.
However, here’s the catch:
You’re missing out on some serious benefits.
The more you can redeem (use that urge differently instead of wishing it gone) the more you’ll experience:
Higher energy – You’ll feel less drained and more motivated.
Clearer focus – Your mind is sharper and ready to take on challenges.
Stronger self-discipline – This will help you crush other goals too, like school, sports, or hobbies.
Better relationships – Without relying on fake, quick pleasures, you’ll form deeper, more meaningful connections with others.
If you’re at once or twice a week, don’t stress. Just know that pushing for longer stretches of abstaining and renewing your mind about the positive benefits your sexual drive has for you, the more you will unlock major positivity and growth!
Keep pushing forward—you’ve got this!
Step 1: Start Small, Build Discipline
If you’re used to masturbating multiple times a day, don’t expect to quit instantly. Instead, start by cutting back:
More than once a day? Limit yourself to just once a day for at least four weeks.
Once a day? Try skipping every other day for at least four weeks.
Every other day? Push yourself to go three to four days between times.
The longer you go without masturbating, the more benefits you’ll notice. You’ll start feeling stronger, thinking clearer, and experiencing life differently.
Step 2: Slowly Increase the Gaps
Once you’ve reduced the habit, it becomes easier to keep going longer without it. Eventually, you’ll find yourself going a week, then two, then even longer—until you reach your goal of full self-control.
Step 3: Follow These Key Principles
1. No Enhancements!
If you do masturbate while working on quitting, DON’T use porn, fantasies, music, magazines, or anything that triggers arousal.
🚫 No daydreams about people.
🚫 No scrolling through sexualized content.
🚫 No listening to music that fuels lustful thoughts.
Why? Because your brain wires itself to crave those images and ideas. If you remove the triggers, you weaken the habit much faster.
2. Beware of “Second Rounds” After a Slip-Up
If you mess up once, don’t use it as an excuse to keep going and fall into a binging cycle. One mistake doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it just means you need to get back on track.
The worst thing you can do is relapse multiple times just because you already gave in once.
3. Get Lustful Thoughts Out of Your Head
If your mind is filled with sexual thoughts, fantasies, or memories, you need to talk and pray them out. Find a trusted mentor, dad, or counsellor and open up.
The more you talk it through, the weaker those thoughts become.
Pray daily, asking God to help you take control of your mind and body.
“We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ” 2Cor 10:5 AMP
4. Be fully aware:
At first, things might not always go the way you expect, and that’s completely normal. If you masturbate without using porn, it might feel less exciting at first, but that’s okay. This isn’t about instant results—it’s part of your journey through puberty, learning about your body, and understanding yourself. You’ll have ups and downs, but every experience helps you mature, build self-control, and move past unhealthy habits or fears that might hold you back. You can grow out of it!
Final Reminder:
This is a journey—not an overnight fix. But if you stay committed, keep trying, and don’t give up, you will gain control over your sexual urges. This might be one of the toughest challenges you’ll ever face, but it also comes with some of the greatest rewards. If you commit to this journey, you’ll discover and experience benefits that can shape your confidence, self-control, functionality, character and overall well-being.