Why we need to CONFESS ADULTERY

and when we masturbate with sexual lustful thoughts

“You shall not commit adultery”

Exodus 20:14

The Bible has much to say about our relationships and sexual behaviour. Jesus said if a man even lusts about a woman in his heart, he has already committed adultery:

“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart”

Matthew 5:28

In addition, the Old Testament punishment for adultery was death by stoning:

“If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel”

Deuteronomy 22:22

Even though the Old Testament punishment in the theocracy of Israel is no longer practiced by Christians today, it does not lessen the seriousness of adultery. With today’s astronomical divorce and infidelity rates, it is important for Christians to seek God’s will, and this means turning away and repenting of the sin of adultery.

Keep in mind, God’s word offers a strong warning to those engaging in unrepentant adultery:

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God”

1 Corinthians 6:9-10

According to the passage above, if I reject Christ ways and engage in unrepentant adultery, I will not inherit the Kingdom of God. I will not in the present or in the future experience what God had planned for me in His Kingdom on earth and in heaven.

how to Repent of Adultery

Jesus tells us that adultery is not always outward, but begins in my heart:

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies”

Matthew 15:19

Therefore, the first and most important part of repentance is to change my mind and inner opinion about adultery. The word repentance means “to change my mind” about being tempted with (or indulging in) lustful thoughts.

This means I must pray for God to deliver me from temptation. I need to rebuke lustful thoughts when they enter in my mind. The Bible says to bring every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ, it is my responsibility and God expect me to do it.

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ”

2 Corinthians 10:5

When I change my mind about the matter, I will start agreeing with God’s opinion about sexual sin. By changing my thought pattern, I can begin to turn away from this very serious sin, and become more Christlikeness.

At first, it may seem impossible to overcome lustful thoughts. But God can give me strength and sanctify me over time, change the sexual lustful ideas coming out of my heart. With this he is leading me to holiness and obedience in Jesus Christ. (Separated from our sexualized culture and made useful in His kingdom purposes)

removing temptation to commit adultery

Once I repented form adultery, I should immediately act to remove any unnecessary temptation from my life. Jesus gave an extreme example of how to avoid sin:

“And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched”

Mark 9:43

Jesus is not calling me to self-mutilate, but this passage shows us that sin is so serious that I ought to go to great lengths to avoid it. For me this may mean blocking pornographic websites, throwing away a computer used for adultery or pornography, throwing dirty movies or magazines in the trash, and avoiding any movies with even a slight sexual conduct in it.

By viewing pornography and sexually explicit material, it plants seed of lust in my heart, and it can grow again and lead me into adultery again.

Next, I should never place myself in situations where I will be alone with a member of the opposite sex, or a person to whom I feel strong sexual attraction to. This is not only to avoid risky situations but also to remove any suspicion of it.

I would be wise to avoid any and all contact with that person with whom I feel strong sexual desire for, including social media, chat rooms, and other digital methods. If I find myself sexually aroused to someone, it would be wise to limit contact with them until I am stronger in faith and had matured into a sanctified Christian who overcame sexual iniquities.

In addition, flirtation with people may seem innocent, but it reflects a problem of the heart and an openness to a physical relationship. never flirt with another person.

If married, I must use any temptation as an opportunity to renew my love and intimacy with my spouse. I need to place my spouse above all other people. Marital relationships are the highest form of intimacy and the closest bond I can experience with humans on earth, and I should seek to protect and cultivate this relationship.

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”

Ephesians 5:25

“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord”

Ephesians 5:22-23

I need to understand THIS about adultery

Finally, it is absolutely imperative that I realize this about the nature of any sin, especially adultery. Sin always seems so good on the surface, but it always costs more, hurts more, and kills more than I could ever imagine. Consider king David, a Godly man who is perhaps the best example of an adulterer in the Bible.

David walked onto his rooftop one day, and he beheld an absolutely GORGEOUS woman. she was a perfect 10, and she stood naked and bathing on her roof. His eyes were mesmerized. He was turned on. He had to have her.

David brought Bathsheba into his chambers, and he slept with her. I’m sure it was pleasurable for David. I’m sure he enjoyed himself quite a lot that night. After all, the Bible says that there is pleasure to be had in sin—but only for a season! Then consequences realize…

David thought he was going to get off easy with this sin. Not so. Satan wants us to think that, but let’s calculate the true cost of David’s night with Bathsheba:

• David ended up killing Bathsheba’s husband, Uriah, by scheming to have him placed at the front of a heated military battle in an attempt to hide his sin.

• God punished David by allowing the child that Bathsheba conceived in her womb to die.

• God vowed that the sword shall not depart from David’s house. (War and strife)

• God said that he would raise up evil out of David’s own house. (David’s son, Absalom, later rebelled, slept with David’s wives, and tried to take the kingdom away)

• God was about to kill David unless he repented on the spot.

• God allowed this shameful scene of adultery to make its way into scripture, which no doubt was a huge blemish on a man who had a devoted faith in God.

Now, here’s the question: if David knew the total cost of that adultery that he committed with Bathsheba, would he still have done it? I’ll guarantee you he would not have done it! No sane man would have done what David did, regardless of how attractive Bathsheba might have been.

When I commit adultery, I must know that it is going to cost me far more than I could ever anticipate.

It could cost me my career, my marriage, my children, my health (STDs/HIV), my finances (divorce, lawsuits, children out of wedlock, alimony), my walk with God, and so much more!

It simply isn’t worth it!

adultery is serious, be on guard

In today’s society, we are bombarded with sexually suggestive commercials, magazine pictures, billboards, music, and more. Satan has cleverly laboured to make lust and sins of the flesh very accessible.

Nevertheless, adultery goes against God’s plan for the family. God’s plan is for one Christian man and one Christian woman to join together in a holy union, and produce and raise Godly offspring.

Adultery is a wicked sin of the flesh, and it brings with it serious consequences. It may seem that pornography, lustful fantasies, innocent flirtation with real people or a “one-night-stand” will be fine, and you’ll get away with it. But this simply isn’t true. You will have to live with the real consequences and fate awaiting those who turn from God’s ways and rather indulge in sin.

we don’t break God’s laws so much as we’re broken by them

If you are dabbling with the sin of adultery, I urge you to repent of your sin and turn to Christ. Christ can cleanse you of your sin, forgive you and lead you to obedience through the power of the Holy Spirit. You must man up and take responsibility for the consequences of your sinful behaviours and fruit thereof that might follow.

but God will forgive you

pray the following CONFESSION prayer

4th CONFESSION PRAYER

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